J - Jealousy

J - Jealousy

    Right from young age we are taught to be cautioned dealing with six passions that are; lust (Kaam),anger(Krodh), greed(lobh), attachment (moh) ,pride (mada) and envy or jealousy (matsarya) as they might lead us to hell. But the divine knowledge or brainy quotes are limited only to books for most of us as we come across so many people with different nature and thinking process that we allow ourselves get entangled into so many unconforming moral values.
In my opinion , Jealousy is one such emotion no one can escape, almost everyone experiences it at some stage of their life.It is one of those conflicts which ends relationship.It can arise out of insecurity or fear of anyone or anything; sibling conflict, in friendships , colleagues conflict, husband-wife conflict,mother in law daughter in law conflict,. Its a killer in real sense.
When there is jealousy amongst siblings there are attempts to impress or seek either of our parents attention as the same is  in friendship. Colleague conflicts is normally common at any and every work place where the desire is for position, designation and credit.When we are jealous , we doubt our loved ones , we constantly worry of losing love, respect , position and rejection from someone unknown or known. Then comes most talked and discussed "Mother in law" and "daughter in law" conflict which is an inbuilt one as there's no receiving end at both the ends.It gradually turns out to be a conflict or rage as who's more smarter. One fears of losing her child , and other considers him as only her own man.
 It acts as a motivational factor to do what is not required and ends up squashing long lived relations.
Most of the people including me are ignorant of the real fact that we are jealous or envy something, and with my personal practice,to overcome it is essential to first recognize and accept that we are in conflict with ourselves. Keeping positive attitude towards life. Engaging oneself into some productive work  or setting goals for ones life is the best remedy to overcome anxiety, jealousy or rage. Everyone's life  is different in some or the other way , every one is busy living their own life.Having  confidence in our own qualities helps us in attracting others and keeping life in our relations.
It is rightly said "looking at the right place in life gives us lasting contentment  and satisfaction". Choosing the right place is in our perception towards life.